Gotta love the Counselor

Thanks to God, he keeps me calm for the most part and lets me laugh things off. This week was a trying week. Issac and I went around a couple times a day. Issacs counselor came to the house a few days ago. She comes once a month. So I tried the lovely things the counselor told us too do when Issac starts to get mad. She wants him to smell the flowers and blow the bubbles and this will calm him down. Well as you can imagine trying to get a four year old to smell the flowers and blow the bubbles when his is having a melt down didn't work. For one it just made him madder and all I could do was laugh because she swears up and down this is going to work. When Issac is having a tough time he just wants to be left alone were it is quiet. So for now we will put the smelling flowers and blowing bubbles on hold. I also had to put the counselor in time out to role play for Issac. It was funny becaue putting her in time out was much easier. I wish Issac would just say " I don't want to be in timeout" that would be easy. Instead she doesn't understand that he hits, bangs his head and throws anything around him. Last she wants us to explain to him that if he is good we will have a calender and for every hour he is good he will get a sticker. Which is fine but I am supposed to explain to him he gets something special at the end of the day. Issac is not an out of control kid. His needs are just different. If the neuroligist didn't request the counselor I would stop. Ending Note When your counselor wants you to role play and act things out just laugh after she leaves because thats all you can do. She just doesn't understand that Issac is not comprehending what she is talking about and you think she would realize that when he answers all her questions with "my daddy's got a semi."

Time to vent

Ok so today I am just going to vent because that is what you have to do sometimes. So Issac is alittle overwhelming this week. He is in a mood that he is either asking the same thing over and over again or he is having a melt down everytime you turn around which is fruastrating. I feel like he just does not understand what I am telling him so he just asks til I ignore him or finally get him to understand what he is asking is not possible at this time. So when it comes to the melt down I have to figure out whether or not he is just overwhelmed himself or throwing a fit. That is a fun time. I do put him in time out and he just goes into this rage of fit where he will throw everything and anything or hit whoever. Now I am sure someone reading this is thinking I don't know how to handle my child. So STOP right there and just stop reading because i don't want to hear it. You probably have never had this problem before and don't understand. I have a daughter who in my opinion is the best child so I do know how to take care of my children. And boy do i really wish it was nice outside so he could go out there and play. So days like this I ask God why are we going through this and to keeps me strong and to give me the peace and understanding to help Issac through these days as well as to help me through these days. I love Issac with all my heart and know that he is a special kid and God has a plan for him. That is what keeps me strong. So please don't give up on your child if the are struggling because they don't know why anymore than you don't know why. Ending Note if you see a child out and about that is upset don't just asume they are a spoiled little brat because that is not always the case. God Bless

Sugar or no Sugar

I am writing today about the effects of sugar and what it will do to some kids. Well just for a little update my son loves his sugar. But he can't have it. Not because I don't want him to but because it makes him mean, out of controll like someone going through withdrawl and he just is a differnt kid. So the question is do I like to keep it away from him? Well I think we all know the answer to that but for the record NO I don't like to tell him he can't have it. On the other hand if you see how it makes him react then you would understand why I keep it away from him. Alot of people don't know how sugar makes a kid react. So ask yourself some questions like does my son get hyper or mean. Does he crave it all the time sometimes it may seem like they are going through withdrawl like a drug. Well in a sense to some kids sugar is a drug. I have found out with my son we have to keep him away from it completely. And it gets so aggravating when I tell someone he can't have that birthday cake and ice cream or can't have the special treats because all you hear is one little piece won't hurt him. Well that little piece will hurt him. And it is hard to tell him no when his sister is sitting there eating it. In his little mind he doesn't understand why he is being told no and everyone else is being told yes. I have found things that has very little sugar or no sugar in it that makes him feel like he is getting a special treat. Ending Note if your child is sensitive to sugar then it is your responsibilty to make your child feel normal by making sure he has special treat when around other people or just don't go around them. I have had to stay away from alot just for my son and I wouldn't give that up for anything in the world. If people don't understand then to me they really just don't care.

Mommy Knows Best

Are you a mother and ever wondered if something was different about your child? Don't feel alone because that is how I felt. But you always have someone telling you that you are over protective or kids advance at different stages which is all true. I believe a mother knows her child better than anyone and if you have that feeling then go with your gut feeling. They may just be a little behind and catch up in the end but you don't know that and why take the chance and wait til it is to late. My son is behind and has been since the age of 2 but I got him in a Help Me Grow program and it has done wonders for him. He is still getting the help he needs and may need it throughout his whole schooling but you know what I don't care anymore because I would rather him get help than not want to admit that he made need it. People that do not know what you are going through either because you choose not to let everyone know like me only my best friend and my mother know what we deal with on a day to day basis do not have any reason to make comments about your child. Ending note is Mommy Knows Best so pick a couple of people you can trust and don't think your crazy and let them be the one you talk to when you get overwhelmed.

The Beginning

No parent ever wants to admit that there may be something wrong with their child. I still struggle with it everytime I think about it. That is why I decided to do this blog. I am hoping to get help, give help, and give insight to other people that don't understand a special child. I thought for the longest time that he was just being stubborn and I didn't know how to control my own child. When all he needed was someone to understand him. So I will continue to post my days with him and how we handle them. Hopefully we will get him the right diagnose that will help him. Until then he continues to see a Neurologist, Counselor and test done and Most importantly prayer for daily. Ending on this note remember it is you who your child looks up to and they just want you to standup for them and protect them.